Sweetestpunk - The Shack

people think they shouldn't vote as a protest or whatever because they've been raised on boycotts. which do sometimes work.

boycotts deprive the target of money.

not voting does not deprive the government of money.

it does, however, deprive you of power.

it's not like a boycott.

I just want to be a weird mammal and do weird mammal things, is that too much to ask?

URGENT TIME SENSITIVE

Hey, It's your friendly neighborhood Black goth dyke stuck in a sticky situation :(

I'm in between jobs rn and although my mom is going back to work soon, our bills are steady approaching and our savings have been exhausted.

Between rent, the internet bill, and our phone bill things have been piling up faster than we can save to pay for it and it's been stressing both of us out.

Please share this around and or give if at all possible. Even a dollar helps.

Venmo: so_goth_shes_black

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Kofi: https://ko-fi.com/thottybrucewayne

paypal: spicysobanoodle@gmail.com

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Got off the bus at tesco with the express intent of buying a specific thing but fuck me sideways if I can remember what the fuck it is

Abusers have human sides to them too.

When abuse, whether real or fictional, is talked about in media, one of two things usually happens. The abuser is either completely dehumanised and painted as an evil caricature, or given a tragic backstory that makes the victim feel so sorry for their abuser they end up forgiving them.

And I think this is part of why it can be so hard to believe we ourselves are going through abuse. Because when it's you going through it, you see the human side of your abuser too. You see them cry, and laugh, and overcome adversity, and be vulnerable, and feel scared and small. You see them struggle and you see them genuinely try to spend quality time with you, and you see them show the ways they love you. Sometimes, you can even see that they mean it when they say they love you.

And because we've been taught that "actual" abusers are all bad, heartless, merciless, and lacking in humanity, and everyone else is just a suffering person who hurt others because they were hurting inside, we think what we're going through can't possibly be abuse. We think we're exaggerating, or being weak, or selfish. We punish ourselves for not being more understanding of what they're going through. We convince ourselves we're making it all up and we're the monsters in our own story.

But we're not. We're just not used to acknowledging that abusers are human, and that their humanity does not negate their abuse.

If you've ever questioned your abuse because your abuser was struggling, or genuinely loved you, or was trying their best, or expressed conflicting emotions, or was abused themselves, this post is for you. I believe you. I believe what happened to you was abuse. Their circumstances did not justify their actions.

I believe you, and you are not alone.

It's Internet Explorer's last day, so it's mandatory to post this relic.